“I promise not to lose her again”

Obsessed. I bought this album last summer, amid a SoCal bands kick, strictly for the song “Airplanes.” Released in 2010, Gorilla Manor is one of my favorite albums, and yes, I’ve been obsessed with it for the last few months. I listenedd a few times last summer – but I was so focused on the perfection of “Airplanes” and was distracted by Awolnation at the time. A few months ago, I had earbuds in and realized that shuffle was turned off. Being too lazy to fix that, I listed to the whole album and that was the best non-decision I’ve made in a while. I’ve been playing and re-playing Gorilla Manor again (and again and again) for the last few months. The bright sounds of ” Wide Eyes,” the raw beauty of “Airplanes,” and the perfection of “Sun Hands” …

“Sun Hands” – Local Natives

I climbed to the top of a hill
But I had just missed the sun
And although the descending arc was gone
Left behind were the traces that always follow along

The most beautiful colors chase the sun
They wrap her trail in a taunting gesture
That seems to sing out loud,
“this is what you’re missing”

I’ll endure the night
For the promise of light

I want to lift my hands towards the sun
Show me warmth
Baby, won’t you show me warmth again?
And when I can feel with my sun hands
I’ll promise not to lose her again
And even if the morning never comes
My hands are blessed to have touched the sun

And when I can feel with my sun hands
I promise not to lose her again

pleasure and pain

So I’ve been thinking about some things for a while and I’m not sure where I want to go with this post, but I have some thoughts and questions that need to get out.

A few weeks (or months) ago a man I was corresponding with asked about my feelings about domination and submission. Quite honestly, my feelings are all over the map. On one hand, I grew up in a pretty feminist family (direct descendents of second-wave feminists; Betty Friedan, Kate Millet, Germaine Greer, Gloria Steinem lined our bookshelves). Yet, the family is also pretty puritanical – sex a taboo topic for the most part, though I’m pretty sure my mother has a distaste for oral sex (and I’m appalled to use that pun in reference to my mother, but I’m gonna use it anyway and hope she never sees this). Dad keeps all of those thoughts completely private. Like a vault within a vault private.

Unlike religion and politics, which we talk to death at family dinners – sex is something we don’t bring up. Lots of reasons – but I think in many ways I’m still a product of that environment. So I’m flummoxed when someone brings up something so direct – thank goodness it was in email and not in a face to face conversation. That would have been one of those “God, strike me with lightning now. Ground, open up and swallow me …” you get the drift, kind of moments. Anyway,  I got this email asking me in an offhand way about BDSM and I’m thinking … how the heck do I address this. I think I made a lame joke about not wanting to spank him … lame, I know. That very same week I saw the trailer for Shame. (Fassbender … sigh.) And it made me think about some of the many messages we’re fed today – about sex, gender, and what is healthy or not.


So its okay that our teen idols today must be sexy (before they really understand what that means) but we can’t tell a story about adults who have issues without it being controversial? Why can we play at sexiness but not talk about it? Why do we have this hugely popular and long running television series about sexual crimes, but can’t show healthy sexual relationships on television? Aren’t we teaching our children that sex is bad but sexy is good? And I won’t even get started on politics right now.

How can we, society, outgrow that teenage discomfort and begin acting like an adult when it comes to sexual matters?

and not make lame jokes when it’s brought up. Anyway, Shame looks pretty good. Will it ever stream on Netflix? (that’s the most important question of all!)

Try Milkshake today

Alrighty folks, in the spirit of a new year … here’s a great site to check out and the new post today’s post is all about resolutions. Check it out.


Resolutions You Can Keep

Jan 02 2012

Every new year people make resolutions to change aspects of themselves they believe are negative. A majority of people revert back to how they were before and feel like failures. This year I challenge you to a new resolution. I challenge you to just be yourself. Aisha Elderwyn

Resolutions You Can Keep
Resolutions are motivators and full of good intentions. But, when they breakdown –and of course they always do – they often make you feel worse than when you started. Who needs it?! We thought of 5 resolutions that we know everyone can do and will not only make you happier, but will make someone else happier as well.

1. Make kindness a daily habit
—Give without the expectation of getting something in return
—Smile at someone first and offer a genuine “hi”
—Take $50 and buy 10 Starbucks cards for $5 a pop. Hand them out to anyone who goes above and beyond the norm
—Write your mail carrier a note of thanks

2. Find a cause to support in 2012. There are thousands upon thousands of organizations supporting and bringing awareness to everything from Autism to AIDS to Animals – find something that moves you and get involved.

3. Read a book that you wouldn’t normally read. Find a book that will enlighten and educate you and most of all make you think.
Steve Jobs by Walter Isaascon
To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee
Social Innovation by Jason Saul

4. Call your mom!

5. Read Milkshake every day and send it to a friend – how could we resist this one?

Magick 4 Terri

Magick 4 Terri.

Beloved editor, artist and writer Terri Windling is in need, and we are asking for your help in a fundraising auction to assist her. This auction will combine donations from professionals and fans in an online sale to help Terri through a serious financial crisis.

Terri is the creator of groundbreaking fantasy and mythic art and literature over the past several decades, ranging from the influential urban fantasy series Bordertown to the online Journal of Mythic Arts. With co-editor Ellen Datlow, she changed the face of contemporary short fiction with The Year’s Best Fantasy and Horror and other award-winning anthologies, including Silver Birch, Blood Moon and The Green Man: Tales from the Mythic Forest. Her remarkable Endicott Studio blog continues to bring music, poetry, art and inspiration to people all over the world.

Terri Windling and her family have been coping with health and legal issues that have drained her financial resources at a critical time. Due to the serious nature of these issues, and privacy concerns for individual family members, we can’t be more specific than that, but Terri is in need of our support. As a friend, a colleague and an inspiration, Terri has touched many, many lives over the years. She has been supremely generous in donating her own work and art to support friends and colleagues in crisis. Now, Terri is in need of some serious help from her community. Who better than her colleagues and fans to rise up to make some magick for her?

Through the next 18 days, we’ll be posting personal offerings from the likes of Neil Gaiman, George R.R. Martin, Wendy & Brian Froud, and many more! Besides bidding on these beautiful items, YOU can also post your own skills, services, arts, crafts, or whatever else you’d like to offer for auction! Please see our complete About Us page for FAQ about Terri, the auction process, and other ways to get involved. Thank you!

This is Tilly, Terri’s dog. She will be our gatekeeper and goal announcer, as she is very eager to convert dollars to dog bones. Tilly will announce a running estimated total at the end of each auction day in this space, so everyone will see the ongoing results of our collective work. Watch this space!